I hope you all know I don’t ever want to come across as preachy and if I do please let me know. I don’t judge anyone. The purpose of this blog is for us to learn and grow together.
I’m also quite uncomfortable with the concept of giving advice. Everything I know, I’ve learned from somebody else and all I’m trying to do here is pass it along, hoping you will find it useful in some way.
I just felt the need to say these things today. Thank you for allowing me to do so. Now, onto today’s main topic which is: smoking marijuana during the holidays (or not).
Really Smoke it Up During the Holidays?
I don’t know about you but my weed consumption always peaked during the holidays, probably for two reasons:
- The Holidays are supposed to be fun, magical, and memorable
- The Holidays can be so damn stressful
In Western society, we’re taught to expect miracles and mind blowing experiences during the Holidays and if that didn’t happen, it’s a huge letdown. The pressure is on to buy the right gifts, decorate the tree just so, and to not letdown family members who need us to be someone we’re not for their own comfort and joy.
I think many of us have a love-hate relationship with Christmas. On the one hand, the lights and festivities are a welcome distraction from the humdrum but on the other hand it’s all the neuroticism of an entire year brought to a head.
So to make the merry part all the merrier and to smooth over the stress of trying to make everything perfect for myself and everybody else, I always smoked a crap ton of weed during the holidays.
Now that I look back on it, I think my holiday weed strategy just fueled a more entrenched habit for each oncoming year. With each New Year, I kept up the daily habit of smoking weed and in the intermittent periods when I wasn’t high, I felt depressed and empty. Then the holidays would come back around, I would ante up my stash, and expect a breakout New Year which never materialized because I just kept smoking weed and building castles in the air.
My Relapse Last Holiday Season
If you’ve been around the blog prior to this post, you may know that I quit smoking weed in April of 2014 and relapsed during the holiday season last year. As of this writing, I’m 10 ½ months weed free but have yet to go through a holiday season without smoking it up.
So I cannot tell you and speak from experience on how to make it through the holidays without smoking pot. I’ve made it this far but the holidays aren’t over yet. What I can do is tell you what I’ve done so far and will continue to do in order not to regress this holiday season. Take from it what you wish:
- I don’t have any expectation of the holiday season other than spending quality time with family and friends. If at any time this gets annoying or stressful, then it’s time to duck out.
- I brokered an agreement within the family that the only gift giving should be to the kids within the family. All the adults seemed to be relieved that I made this proposal.
- My partner and I agreed that rather than buying gifts for each other this year, we will put a specified amount of money aside for a fabulous vacation next year. Luckily, this wasn’t so hard to do since I didn’t spend so much money on weed this year.
- I left half the decorations in the attic this year. No more trying to keep up with the Griswolds. It’s better for the environment and the electricity bill anyway.
You see, with the above four things, I’ve eliminated about half of all the running around, scrambling, and money spending associated with holiday stress. Not only that, it leaves more time to absorb and appreciate the holiday season and to focus on what the holidays are supposed to be about: togetherness with people.
In terms of replacing weed with something else this season, I’m doing the following:
- I’ve reached out to three separate people I’ve been associated with in years past but lost contact with. I had to find them through Facebook. I proposed we have lunch sometime this month. They all seemed thrilled that I contacted them and I am excited that they are looking forward to meeting up. One of them told me that she thinks about me all the time which kind of stunned me and made me feel all warm and fuzzy at the same time. The people from your past think of you and appreciate you more than you might think. You can return the favor by giving them some of your time.
- Rather than making New Year’s resolutions or just rolling into the new year without a plan, I’m utilizing my spare time in December to make a blueprint for my life in 2016, which is a lot different than making worthless resolutions. The planning stage ends on the 31st and the action stage begins on the 1st. Focusing on the future and actually doing things to bring it to fruition helps keep my mind off of pot and I’ve got wasted time to make up for.
So this is what I’m doing not to get stuck in the marijuana rut again this holiday season. If you’ve also quit this year and want to make it through to the New Year without smoking again, hopefully I’ve given you some food for thought to propel you into a successful 2016.
Quitting the Weed Habit During the Holidays
If you’re still smoking weed and want to stop, I’ll go ahead and say that the holiday season can be a difficult time to quit but it’s not impossible. It’s all in how you look at it. It could be the best gift you ever gave to yourself and it would give you a leg up on starting out the New Year just right.
Alternatively, you can use this month to set yourself up for success next month. Literally write down three positive changes you want to see take place in your life next year and next to each one of those write down your own honest opinion as to how the daily weed habit hurts or helps the chances of those positive changes taking place.
If weed stands in the way of even one of those goals, then perhaps you want to take the rest of this month to really educate yourself on how to quit smoking weed. Then, when the holiday madness is over, take 2016 by the horns, beat the weed habit, and make it your best year ever.
You can visit the resources page for information on quitting weed.
Here’s hoping you and yours have a wonderful holiday season!